(To skip intro, scroll down to the Taylor's Tips in bold)
As some of you may know, i have an active profile on the dating site SeekingArrangement.com. (SA) For the last year i've researched the site, been on a few dates, and have to confess that i have not been keeping up with my writing work for SA. I'm one article behind for March and I have not submitted any articles/work for April. The last 3 weeks have been a blur thanks to the March 28, 2017 court date that i recently endured.
All excuses aside, here i am at 9:40p writing this piece. Taylor B. Jones is an entrepreneurial force that is well known in the "Sugar" world. Tonight, Taylor had a free podcast called Profiles that ATTRACT. She emailed us a link a few days ago. The email also had a phone number with pin to call in and be able to speak to her live. I logged on about 5 minutes into the podcast and stayed until the end, over 1.5 hours later.
Prior to the podcast, Taylor had emailed us. She asked that we send her our dating profiles. Taylor picked 25 profiles and went thru every single profile during her podcast. At the end of this blog you will find a screen shot of my prior profile along with a screen shot of my new profile, using Taylor's advice. Let me know what you think.
Now, for the recap of her podcast:
Taylor started off explaining the need to break down the profile into sections. There is the about you and the what you're looking for sections where our personalities are able to shine thru. She also explained there are internal robots that go thru the profiles. If a profile has been on the site for a long time, a brand new profile, will receive more robot attention and hence, a higher ranking.
The writing sections are to be seen as high end real estate. Every word must convey a feeling or emotion that connects the reader to the author, for the profile to be effective.
Watching Taylor go thru all 25 profiles was a bit painful. I can only imagine how frustrating it must be, having to endure reading the exact same wording over and over. All profiles (male and female) said they were down to earth people, that they were spontaneous, loved to travel, loved the finer things in life, loved fine dining, and all were looking for a "connection". Many of the profiles had girls posting their ages as a feature. Goals were also routinely mentioned. A few profiles had requests for specific girlfriend allowances and another few had comments of a sexual nature. Some had a single sentences for each section.
Also, in some sample profiles the grammar was questionable. Others, had spelling errors on the smallest of words. Taylor suggested to run spell check thru the wording, prior to posting, since we can all fall victims to typos.
. Purpose of every profile is to create an emotion strong enough in your ideal partner, that they will take action and reach out to you.
. Every word used on the profile is meant to help the reader learn about you, get a feel for your personality, and figure out if there is enough chemistry to initiate a conversation.
. Make the sentences sound like there is a face to face conversation going on.
. Chances for success are higher if you know WHO you are, WHAT you are looking for in a partner, and are ABLE to express these ideas in an engaging manner.
. Know your ideal partner by putting yourself in your 'ideal partner's shoes'. Why is your ideal partner on the dating site? What are they hoping to find there? Are you that person they're looking for?
. If your online account has been active for longer than 6 months to a year, cancel it and create a new one. The online robots rank newer profiles higher.
. Are you looking for someone that is career driven, fun, flirty, unique, classy, intelligent, and yes down to earth, spontaneous, loves to travel, loves fine dining, etc? We all do. When describing yourself and your ideal partner, use engaging phrases that will create an emotional connection (will resonate) with your target (more on this on my before and after profile)
. When describing yourself and your ideal partner, step out of the crowd by being mindful of how many times the "I" pronoun is used in your descriptions.
. If you are on ANY type of dating site that is NOT Sugar related, the expectations are completely different. On a Sugar site it is all about the "investment" of time and providing compatible companionship that is worthy of that investment. (What value is being provided to each other?) Sugar sites are NOT to financially support a partner, they are a tool to find "companions worthy of investing in."
. The profile is an interaction, to show case why any reader would see your companionship as a worthy investment.
. Profiles are not meant to be a one size fits all. These type of profiles do not portray who the author is, what the author wants, who the author is looking for, and will probably not reach the intended ideal parter.
. Be selective and patient. If your profile is bringing you opportunities to meet face to face, there has to be a selection process or weeding out process prior to investing time in meeting face to face.
. Finding/attracting your ideal partner on a dating website will be much more enjoyable if you are happy with who you are, know yourself, are honest about your expectations, and know how to market yourself.
. Be personable and convey ease while portraying/translating your value. Make it easy to send a message to reach out to you.
. Profile writing is a skill. Taylor offers her coaching services to help write a winning profile.
. Pictures play an important part in a profile, but this podcast was only about writing tips.
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